Bob Kunzinger

Best. Professor. Ever.

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To start, one of my students wrote this sentence: “The iridescent luminescence of the phosphorescent fungi, a phenomenon both ephemeral and mesmerizing, cast an ethereal glow upon the cavern’s labyrinthine corridors.”

I am a bloody brilliant professor. It took me more than thirty-five years to reach this level of excellence as a teacher, but at last I have proof of my abilities to teach college freshman to produce excellent work. Allow me to set aside any semblance of humility for this moment to suggest some rewards should be forthcoming. Teacher of the year, perhaps; a newly-imagined accommodation introduced this year for the purpose of honoring me, maybe. If there is still a Department of Education, maybe a plaque on a wall. 

For the first time in my career, more than fifty students (out of sixty five) wrote nearly perfect papers. Every sentence structured with absolute perfection, diction equivalent to PhD candidates of some Ivy League institution after the work has been combed by editors with a thesaurus, and not a single comma out of place, even the Oxford commas; every single one of them exactly where they should be. 

There’s more. Oh, and wait for the Big Reveal.

The expert sources, despite their association nearly exclusively with universities in Southeast Asia and India, all precisely attributed. What is especially satisfying is that I managed to enable my students, on only their second paper ever in a collegiate class, to write better than any student I have had since the end of the Reagan administration. These magnificent students used compound sentences with five-syllable words with such accuracy and topic-specific precision I have a renewed faith in this country’s education system. Bravo! primary, middle, and high school teachers! You have passed to us college instructors the finest composition writers in a generation.  

But here’s the real reason to celebrate: These students are all high school students taking my college writing class in a Dual Enrollment Program. Again, Bravo! And, well, just Wow! And imagine, they’re almost all just seventeen-years-old.

Okay, so this can’t be a unique situation, one might think, and therefore not worthy of the accolades I suggest. So here’s more: This all happened in the past few weeks in West Virginia where 27% of high school students failed to meet the reading proficiency. And according to an extensive study by the University of Wisconsin of English Learners in Middle Schools and High Schools Pre, During, and Post Covid, English scores declined steadily and significantly just about the time my current students were in ninth grade. The most dramatic decline was in writing skills, followed closely by listening skills. And yet, I pulled their previously unrecognized talents out of the hidden depths of their inattentive minds and produced extraordinary students writing exquisitely ideal papers. 

I’m that good. 

Some suggest I investigate the possibility the papers were ChatGPT generated, but I say there’s no need. I understand their defense of AI with the car-replaces-the-horse analogy, and that the need to know how to write the essay is secondary to their ability to know how to find one that meets the requirements when they need to do so. The previous example in education might be the Texas Instruments primitive calculator replacing the slide rule. I do understand. But these seventeen-year-old Best-Essay-Writers EVER students would not use such devices since I specifically and clearly instructed them that to do so would result in failing the course and possible expulsion from the university for Academic Dishonesty; why would anyone smart enough to write such pristine essays at the same time be dumb enough to risk their entire college career and subsequently their livelihoods by cheating on a college essay by plagiarizing, even if from a computer? Nay! This work must be original! 

Honestly, I had doubts at one time that I ever should have been teaching college. I wanted to raise goats. But I’m convinced now that this path I stumbled onto was the right one. I have written my own essays for more than forty years, shared them with best-selling authors and acclaimed writing faculty at the finest colleges for suggestions and assistance, and have an extensive publishing record–pardon my lack of humility here. I just write this to highlight the fact that I find myself surrounded by minors–for only a couple of these students are yet eighteen-years-old–who have clearly surpassed anything I have been capable of, editing and sentence structure wise, I mean. Nothing can be done about how dreadfully boring their essays are. But I do not grade college compositions based upon their level of “excitement.” No, these 900 and 1200 word essays, all in perfect APA format, stand alone as unblemished. 

I’ll be straight–I was a bit worried at the beginning of the semester when I posted on the online discussion board for each of them to explain their interests, hobbies, and hopes for their future, and the responses were riddled with incomprehensible fragments and more dangling modifiers than I’ve ever seen dangled before. But my worries where unfounded. After just five weeks I have successfully produced a stellar group of writers, all in a school district ranked 41st out of 55 in the state. All in a state ranked last–50th–in overall education.

At the very least I deserve a raise. 

The Joanie Channel

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Joan in the Great River house, circa 1969

On June 22, 2002, my sister sat at our parents’ kitchen table and recorded an audio interview she did with them about their lives, about life during the depression and World War 2. She asked other questions, and just like Terri Gross on Fresh Air, did a great job of bouncing off of their responses. She sent copies to my brother and me about five years ago, and when I sat to listen to them, a few things struck me. One, my father was precise in his responses, and my mother was hysterical in hers. He was 77 at the time, and Mom was 69. But what hit me hardest was hearing our father’s voice for the first time in half a decade. I can hear his voice in my mind, of course, but to actually hear his voice like he was sitting there made him young again. The last few years of his life I was around him all the time and his dementia grew worse and worse. So when I played the cd, I heard not just my father, but my father younger, still alert to everything. It was nice to push past the sound of his weak and confused voice that had filled the corners of my mind and hear him as he had been. Ironically, at the same time it makes it hard to listen.

About two years ago while out to lunch I randomly recorded a video of my mother talking about something. I don’t remember what and the video is gone, but the idea took hold, and for the last two years every couple of weeks when we were at lunch or getting coffee, I’d ask her a specific question, or I’d encourage her to remember a particular time in her life. Note that she is one of the funniest and smartest people I’ve ever known, and understand too that she has had quite the life from the streets of Bushwick, Brooklyn, to Long Island, to Virginia Beach, and now in Williamsburg, Va. There are fifty plus videos here, but I recorded more than a hundred and deleted many. Some were redundant, and some in the past year or so I got rid of when Mom would struggle with a memory, or lose track of what she was talking about.

Still, this is decidedly not about Joan Catherine.

It is about time. This has everything to do with the brief flash of time we have to share with each other. Watch how a person can at once both change so much and still be themselves, who they are in their heart. The truth is at some point as we age we realize that we must set aside our anger and anxiety and arguments, and we seem to do so far too late in life. In the past year I’ve lost a half dozen people I loved very much who were my confidants and companions, and every one of them died relatively young, three of them in their early sixties. At the same time, my mother has nose-dived into a wall, fallen and slammed her head on a porcelain tub, fallen on the floor, faced cancer–again–had a pacemaker put in, battled neuropathy, and moved from her spacious condo where she lived with my dad, to an independent living apartment in Virginia Beach, to an assisted living apartment in Williamsburg, and she just keeps going. Last July she was in the hospital with pneumonia and sleeping eighteen hours a day, and the doctor did not think she would leave the hospital. Yesterday we went to lunch at an Italian restaurant and she woofed down a massive piece of tiramisu. She Just. Keeps. On. Going. And always with a sense of humor. She talks here about her move from Brooklyn to Long Island, from there to Virginia, and about how patient she can be. Or not. She sings the Banana Song, Woody Guthrie, a Shampoo commercial, and in one of my favorites when she had no idea I was taping from the cup holder of my car as we drove along, she sings “New York, New York.”

But this isn’t about Joan. This is about brevity. When we look ahead–when we anticipate–time can slow to a tragically slow pace. But when we look back, when we recall, we can transport our mind instantly to another era, as if it happened two seconds ago. This makes it seem like time goes by so fast. But it is the same now as it was when we were children. That’s the thing about time: it is dependable. Not one fat second will lose an ounce on my account. But the older we get, the more we recall instead of plan, so the clock can be deceptive. In these videos, Mom is full of energy, sitting up and laughing, with immediate recall of incidents an hour earlier as well as two generations ago; at the same time, here Mom is wearing oxygen, sometimes softly gasping for air, and her memory is nearly non-existent.

Time. It is the only measurement that matters. And we are endlessly distracted by the news and entertainment and the stress of finances and politics and health. But all of it slides away when we start to list what is essential. Then, the answer is easy: each other. That’s it. People leave us, sometimes slowly and sometimes with the swiftness of a cool, autumn morning that takes us by surprise. But they do, in fact, leave.

These videos are in no order, so one of Mom recently trying to remember her Uncle’s name might be followed by one of her looking stronger, heavier, talking about her favorite foods. I decided against a strict chronological order so that instead of watching a woman’s slow decline as age takes hold, we can see how life is, in the words of my friend poet Toni Wynn, “Paper thin.” I will add more to her page as time permits. Thanks for enjoying our mother’s beautiful sense of humor and simple take on what matters the most.

Note: There are some videos on the “Video” tab, but most of the videos are on the “Shorts” tab. Please check out both. And “follow” The Joanie Channel.

https://www.youtube.com/@TheJoanieChannel/shorts

Lecture: Day One

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Not for nothing, here are three definitions straight from my lecture on the first day of my Critical Writing and Thinking course:   

Fact. A fact is anything independently verifiable. No one should disagree with the facts unless they haven’t done their homework to find out what is and what is not factual. There are no such things as alternative facts; true facts can be verified and are not obtained from biased individuals with personal agendas. They come from independent sources. Note: The opposing side of an argument would still agree with the facts.

Opinion. A lot of people have the wrong opinion about what an opinion is. It is not how you feel about something. We’ll get to that. It is a “judgement based upon the facts.” So the value of the opinion is dependent on whose judgement it is. Ideally, experts; that is, people who have taken the time, education, and research to find out as much information as possible about a particular idea and disseminate the results for us. They know more about the subject than anyone else and have no agenda in the results. Their experience at being able to decipher information through time and in consultation with various other independent researchers, validates the perspective.  If someone offers an opinion without finding out the expertise or validity of the source, the opinion is in question and often wrong. Yes, it is possible to have a bad or wrong opinion if the judgement is not based upon independent experts.

Belief. This is what many think of as an opinion. A belief is a judgement based upon faith. Not necessarily religious, but that too. It is a conviction not based upon anything directly and empirically verifiable, but through trust. No one is wrong for their beliefs as they are not opinions, that is, judgements based upon facts; they are judgements based upon convictions.

Here’s the example:

No one questions that when we buy a house and we need to get it inspected, we are wholly concerned about the opinion of the inspector. We want expert inspectors to tell us what is wrong and right with the place and present factual evidence, and we certainly don’t want an inspector who works for the seller and only has their welfare in mind, nor do we want one who doesn’t have the experience and expertise to do the inspection to begin with. No one questions this, but there are people who insist the opinion of a botanist about political affairs is valid. It is not. The botanist has beliefs one may align with—so be it, but do not pretend the information is valid from independent sources.

This leads to the most important question in all of discussions about politics, world affairs, and finances. It is also the question I tell my students is the primary concern of every professor from the time students write a paper for freshman comp to when they obtain a PhD:

Where did you get your information?

That’s it. Everything else isn’t even worth discussing without first establishing that the opinions and facts come from independent, verifiable sources who can study not only historical trends but predict pretty accurately what is likely to happen based upon that knowledge. This is what economists are best at, and so too political scientists. They are able to say, “Based upon these legal notations and previous attempts in various situations, the most likely outcome of these actions is….”

Hope and faith have nothing to do with it.

The emotion swirling through today’s atmosphere is unprecedented, and some of it isn’t because decisions being made are necessarily wrong but because they are unprecedented and seemingly dangerous as they negatively affect millions of people. Those people who are affected—all of us actually—want to know upon what basis these decisions are being made to do whatever it is being done, and who are the independent and valid experts who suggested those actions to begin with. A full disclosure of that information from researchers and experts would curb much anxiety.

No one should be out to change another person’s convictions. But if there is an argument at hand, the only way to win is by presenting facts and opinions, not beliefs, and one must maintain the belief that others will accept those facts and opinions.

The Lasso Way: A Needed Philosophy Today

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When my brother suggested I watch “Ted Lasso,” I trusted his judgement. He had already nailed it with a few other shows, including “Eureka.” The first time through I enjoyed it immensely, the acting, the writing of course, the timing. It took a few episodes to understand this was not simply a series of set-up/punchline comedy, a method I despise. And it took a few times through the entire three seasons to recognize the primary overall theme at the heart of creator/producer/writer/star Jason Sudeikis’ efforts: This show is all about fathers and sons. 

When I struggled with transitioning my book The Iron Scar from the “who gives a shit” stage to the essential-to-be-published “readable and relatable” stage, the answer came while in a writing seminar in Ireland where I had been formulating the final draft of a series of letters from myself to my dad while traveling with my son across Siberia. Writer Elizabeth Rosner, almost as an aside, asked me why the chapters are formulated as letters. “I don’t know,” I told her. “Bad bad answer” she said. I pulled together a response about wanting to have three generations on board, and the reality of my son becoming an adult and moving on in the world the same time my father was approaching his final days. But I still couldn’t answer so I came home from Connemara and chopped my manuscript to small pieces. A few weeks later in a conversation with a friend in Texas, I said, “Tim, I’m losing focus on the theme.” He responded, “I’m not. This is all about fathers and sons. About moving on while trying to hold on. And the metaphor of the train is nothing more than setting.” Between the time my son and I rode the train and the time I wrote the book, my father died. I heard once that the loss of a parent is the greatest loss of security we can face, even at fifty-five years old. Not because we aren’t able to handle the turmoil of life on our own but because that foundation has been rocked. 

So I rewrote the entire book as a narrative that takes place on the trans-Siberian railway, with all the characters and unknowns that trip entails, but that’s not what it is about. It’s about relationships, about being between two generations who are about to transition. 

Back to Ted.

Sudeikis masterfully weaves every possible father-son relationship into what on the surface is a comedy about an American football coach hired to the helm of a British premier league soccer (football) club. 

Right away we have the estranged father as Ted Lasso separates from his wife, and his young son remains with his mother. We also soon learn the powerful impact his own father had on him and the fallout from his father’s suicide when Ted was just sixteen. In England we meet the team, including Jamie Tartt, whose father is physically and verbally abusive, Sam Obisanya, whose father is more of his best friend and mentor, Nathan Shelley, whose Dad is demanding of his son’s talents and seemingly never satisfied, Leslie (male) Higgins who is the proud and dotting father of five boys, Roy Kent, who becomes a surrogate father to his niece, and of course Ted himself, who moves into the father-role to the entire team, the individual players with which he has various degrees of parental conflicts and resolutions.

This is listed as a comedy, but it absolutely fits the bill as a drama as well, placing it in the same vein as shows like MASH which walks that thin line between laughter and tears. 

But this isn’t about that. We are in a drama that has become laughable, and the line between what’s funny and what is tragic is a shadow at best.

Both the Mother and Father figures in our lives have served to keep grounded the best efforts of humanity throughout history. We need either to recognize the example or play the part. Almost all aspects of society rely upon those roles to set the strong example with seemingly unconditional love as we push through difficult moments. When hope seems fleeting and one feels “lost in a pathless wood” as Frost proclaims, that Maternal strength or Paternal guidance is almost always enough to help us keep going, knowing that whatever happens we’ll be okay. Even if we lose, we suffer those losses together, and we move on. 

There seems to be a lack of parental symbolism in the world, in the nation, in our lives. In fact, more often than not those who should be in those roles these days are appearing more like Jamie Tartt’s abusive and untrustworthy father. It would be perfect if we could always rely upon Sam Obisanya’s Yoda-like dad to turn to, but that’s not the hand we’ve been dealt. In fact, it feels like we’re a player down right now and this time it’s the captain of the team who is absent. That loss of security can be overwhelming. 

I do not want to judge. In fact, if we are to do so, I remember Ted’s line, “I hope that either all of us, or none of us, are not judged by our weakest moments, but what we do with it if and when we are given a second chance.” But our foundation has been rocked, and it’s getting harder to find solid ground these days. So we must do what the team does and depend upon each other, pass to each other when we don’t have a clear shot, hold each other up when we’re flailing, and celebrate each other when we work things out. 

We will get through this time we are in. We might have to switch our game plan, but we’ve got each other’s backs, and that might be enough. 

My brother, my son, and my dad, 2015

The Five Things I did This Week Assignment

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Despite my dislike of djt and em, two of the deplorables, I am intrigued by the assignment put forth by the South African/Canadian currently in charge of the United States; to record five things I accomplished this past week and send it to my boss.

I don’t really have a boss, per se. Never did actually. I mean, at the college I have a supervisor, but we’re trusted enough to be left alone to do what we need to do to accomplish the college’s mission. That’s the thing about good leadership; it lets the people who know what they’re doing do what they know. In my twenties I ran a health club and in my late-teens and early twenties I managed a hotel and in both cases my boss was either across the country or across town. So while in all those jobs I had someone above me, likewise in all those cases, they let me do what I needed to do.

My point is I am not sure to whom I should send this Muskian request of five accomplishments, so I decided to put it out here in the Wilderness, where thousands can View what I’ve been doing this week which I believe warrants that I continue doing what it is I do.

  1. I made a list of what I would do if I wanted to rule indefinitely without anyone able to stop me. I’d fire all the Generals who are responsible for insuring checks and balances is taking place. I’d fire the chief counsel at all branches of the military along with the Chair of the Joint Chiefs to make sure if there is any sort of “delay” in my leaving office, I will have the military and the ones fighting on my behalf in court all on my side. I would trim down all branches of the government which could somehow seize my power back financially, and I’d discontinue media access to press conferences to anyone who did not agree with me, so that the propaganda is not directly from my office but from the media’s lack of coverage of dissenting opinions. This is just a brief list so far and I know it is ludicrous to think congress or even a conservative senate would allow this to happen knowing their legacy depends upon the preservation of our country, but I had to accomplish something this week and I chose this.
  2. I filled out the form and made an online promise to participate in the march on Washington in defense of DEI employees, for LGBTQ+ rights, for diversity and inclusion in the military, and more. I am confident my chosen supervisor genius inventor idiot would never fire me for wanting to make sure as many people as possible in this country no matter their backgrounds, their gender, their identification, race, religion, or any other aspect of their humanity that these two feckless weaklings take issue with, have as much opportunity as possible to make this country greater than it already was.
  3. I asked my critical thinking and research students to find one federal program that was cut and investigate what are the long-term losses by the programs demise that are apparently compensated for by any short-term financial gains. And if there aren’t any gains in the long run, I asked them to find out who will be responsible for fixing it. I suggested they start with the many medical and health assistance programs which save the lives of children around the world, which prevent the spread of deadly diseases such as Ebola, or anything they want really. It is up to them. I suggested they wear masks while doing the research as measles is getting bad again.
  4. I walked through the woods and along the trails here at Aerie. I wandered down to the river and sat on the rocks and visited with some ghosts I’ve known for some time. We talked about the changes that find us now, and how they leave me so cold and so scared. I told my spirited late friends that thinking of them brings me peace, and maybe because of the heart trouble and kidney cancer, and the heartbreaking brain tumor, that they are free from this slow erosion of democracy and now they don’t need to watch. I laughed and thought of how they all might respond, and then I remembered what a writer once said, that “so long as I have breath and the ability to write, I will remain here to fight another day.” And so I shall. It was a beautiful walk and reminded me too of what is important. I miss my ghostly companions.

Which leads me to number five:

  • I’m writing a group of songs. I’m about halfway through. Let’s call them folk songs, but let’s also call them protest songs. I’ve taken out my guitars and they stand obediently on their stands near the window. I have a pile of notes and scribblings and some complete sheets of paper with phrases and lines and irony and metaphor. I tried doing something similar to this forty-five years ago when I was a young, immature college student badly playing coffeehouses. I couldn’t write well at all then. Now I can. And at some point I’ll record and upload the group of—let’s call them Go-Fuck-Off-Don and Elon songs—to Youtube, and at that point I’ll complete my “five things I did In Class Today Mommy” assignment properly. Maybe the album will do so well I’ll receive a Kennedy Center Award.

Oh Right! Number Six: Turn down Kennedy Center Award.

So what’s on your list?

Parenthood: A Lesson in Algebra

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I’ve told this story before.

When Michael was about three or four, he used to play “Sir Michael the Knight.” Sometimes it would be on the sand in the yard of a beach house we rented one winter where we would build elaborate castles and he’d be Sir Michael and I was the dragon inevitably slain by the knight, culminating in my plunging death into the castle. Most often he occupied himself on rainy days when he would don his shield and sword and cardboard helmet and then barrel around the house. One time he ran through his grandmother’s home, cardboard sword before him, through the kitchen to the living room to the dining room and back into the kitchen, several times always calling “Sir Michael the Knight is going to slay the dragon!” or “You can’t get away from me dragon!” as he passed again, his voice fading in some Doppler effect as he disappeared into the kitchen, emerging around the corner seconds later. On one turn he was mid-sentence running into the dining room when his shoulder clipped the table and his feet flew out before him and his entire body slammed to the floor in perfect professional wrestling fashion. I jumped from the couch when I heard his head hit the ground, but he only lay there a second before he said, “Sir Michael the Knight hurts himself bad.” He got up and kept running.

He is still running. Michael turns thirty-two tomorrow; half my age. When he was born, I was thirty-two times his age, and now we’re down to twice his age. He’s aging, I’m not, is how I like to look at it.

What’s crazy is the obvious math here: The time it took for me to get to Michael’s birth is the time it took to get from his birth to now. It makes me examine everything I did in those first thirty-two years, and it was a lot. By the time he was born I had been around the block, to be sure. Time pushes us in multiple directions. A week from now seems a stretch compared to thirty-two years ago. Anticipation slows down time, but recollection instantly thrusts us back to one moment like it just happened. And when I look back at what happened, I often wonder how I’m still here. But all of those years are nothing at all compared to what we’ve done since 1993. It’s been one hell of a ride.

It isn’t unusual to find us at a local oyster bar splitting a dozen and drinking hard cider. Together we’ve ventured to various east coast spots like Long Island and the Outer Banks of North Carolina, trained across Europe and Asia on the Trans-Siberian Railway, and walked across Spain. We’ve seen more together than most fathers and sons get to experience in a lifetime. I am constantly aware of this and deeply grateful.

But none of those journeys compare to the pilgrimage we make to the river every evening when we’re both home to take pictures of the setting sun, and we wander around in silence to listen to the water and watch the wildlife. One of us might mention a colorful cloud formation or the approach of an osprey, but mostly we take pictures and point out the peacefulness. This has been a steady routine since he was four; the picture taking started just a few years later. In the summer the sand fleas can be unbearable but we tolerate them, swatting our legs and faces determined to remain at the river a bit longer. In winter we bundle up ready for whatever wind whips down the Rappahannock toward the bay.

Over these nearly three decades we must have taken thousands of pictures. I prefer to point my camera up at the ever-changing cloud formations picking up the last bit of light from the fading sun. I try not to allow anything “earthbound” into the frame, including trees or even the water. I like the fluidity of clouds, how beautiful they are ever so briefly before they dissipate. Michael aims at the surface, seeing hues and shapes that swirl and gather and disperse as fast as he can find them, capturing just the right combination of color and design before the tide takes over.

It is about perspective.

He’s been around the world on his own. Ireland, Spain, Cuba. And he holds together the art community here on the Bay. He’s done alright. When someone asks who he is like in the family, I don’t have to hesitate: My father. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.

These days I prefer to look forward. There’s a lot to look forward to, and more often than not these days it is separate from each other, but always letting each other know how it’s going.  I am not sure where Michael’s headed next but wherever it is and for whatever reason, I am confident it is with faith, a sense of humor, and an instinctive ability to be kind to people. I am as excited as he is about what’s laying out there ahead of him in that land of hopes and dreams.

Happy Birthday, Sir Michael.

Tirade

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Let’s be clear: This information is accurate. For more than thirty-five years I’ve made a good living teaching research methods to ensure validity in collegiate essays. All support needs to be thoroughly investigated, not by finding a source, and not a few sources, but no less than three independent-from-each-other sources to guarantee the accuracy of the information. Further, only after a spin as Devil’s Advocate to guarantee all sides have been considered and all perspectives anticipated can anyone trust the validity of the content.

So, that being understood, President Donald J. Trump is out of his mind. He is ruining this country and has convinced a majority of its voting public that what is happening is for their better good.

In the past ten days—his first ten days in his second term—he has done the following:

Allowed energy exploration and production on Federal Lands, including offshore sites, for critical minerals and fossil fuels, removed regulations which favor electric cars, and canceled all previous orders already in place to avoid such disasters to the environment and sustainability.

He also declared a National Energy Emergency which allows the executive branch to have more power to facilitate projects, including putting pipelines across land. Note that solar and wind power are excluded from this declaration.   

Withdrew from the Paris Climate Accord. Again.

Allowed the government and companies to fully avail themselves of Alaska’s vast lands and resources to drill for natural gas.

This dictator declared that all agency heads should review all previous criminal enforcement, civil enforcement, and intelligence conduct, decide if it was politically motivated, and hold those actors accountable with possible criminal prosecution and punishment.

This neo Hitler-in-charge has reclassified career federal employees as political appointees, which means if they don’t sway to political pressure they can now legally be fired.

Donald J Stalin revoked security clearances for dozens of intelligence officials who agreed with former president Joseph Biden.

He terminated all diversity, equity, and inclusion programs in the federal government. Yes, this homophobe and racist bastard ordered that all agencies report to the OMB director a list of all employees in DEI positions. They have sixty days to comply or they will be fired.

This genital-grabbing, foul-mouthed accused rapist has mandated that the federal government will henceforth recognize only two genders: male and female, and they must be referred to by the term “sex” instead of “gender identity.” That alone would push him toward a failing grade in my class for ignorance in diction, but that’s a rabbit hole I’ll avoid for now. For now.

He has established with psychopathic South African born genius and immigrant in favor, Elon Musk, the Department of Government Efficiency, or DOGE (how clever) to cut government spending, which on the surface isn’t a poor idea, but it works only if those charged with carrying out the mission have a clue as to the cause and effects of financial spending in the government. Most foreign aid, for example, isn’t a gift, but allows trade to occur with benefits to the US, allows use of airspace for military and commercial use, and prevents war—it prevents war. Again, Foreign Aid Prevents Wars. That should be branded on his stomach.

He wants to “clean out (note the sliver of space between his phrase and the word “cleansing” often used during the holocaust) the Gaza Strip. He and Musk have already stated the “resort potential in the lands of Gaza.”

He has ordered that the rights guaranteed in the First Amendment should not be interfered with, which includes disinformation, libel, and lying even when it harms others, and that anyone in the last four years who did interfere with his ideas of the above will be investigated and punished.

Take a minute to get a drink or take a shower.

Okay,

This old man withdrew the US from the World Health Organization, which includes cancelling a Biden Administration order to cooperate with the WHO in the case of a future pandemic.

He has ended the moratorium on the Death Penalty and ordered the USAG to pursue the death penalty “whenever possible,” and that State prosecutors, who are not bound by the federal order, are still “highly encouraged” to do the same. “Highly encouraged” is how Trump spells “do it or I’ll ruin you.”

He signed a new order which revoked a Biden order which promoted voter registration, and the same new order makes it easier to reshape election maps.

There’s more, but that’s for another time. Some of these directives still must pass congress’ scrutiny, but they are in place and on their way to being status quo, which is how nazis defined every small new law against Jews which built over the course of the thirties leading up to the holocaust. The view from this wilderness is grim. We have entered an age in America where the person in charge, over the course of several decades, gained the admiration and trust of a great deal of mostly under-educated Americans who never learned how to measure the effects of another’s actions; who never learned to investigate the repercussions of carrying out an act which on the surface seems logical enough but has ramifications which can not only damage this country, but can directly lead to its demise. He’ll have the support of right-wing media outlets, whose “commentators” have no experience at all in government, political science, military strategy, or economics. But they’ll mouth off in agreement anyway because then they’ll be famous and rich and maybe even given a cabinet position, and many Americans will listen and agree because the ten-second soundbite is easier to comprehend than the research necessary to find out the truth.

The truth is tariffs will cause prices to rise drastically, and he’ll lie about how it happened. Policies will damage all sustainability programs and environmental protections at a time we are dangerously close to crossing the tipping point, and he’ll claim as he has before that the statistics are made up by left-wing radicals.

Left wing radicals, like scientists, economists, Nobel laureates, every living former president, the leading minds in the military and political science worlds, and historians who measure these things from the past nearly 250 years. And writers.

With President Trump cozying up to dictators and morally corrupt billionaires, this sycophant will not stop until he undoes the twenty-second amendment and heads toward more terms with his pal Vlad Putin.

Listen, I know many people who support this con-artist. Some are friends and some are relatives, and they all voted for him for some specific reason which they could not find in former vice president and presidential candidate Kamala Harris. Some may have even voted for him for no other reason than they didn’t want a woman or person of color in office, which in itself is a repulsive reason. And some of these aforementioned realities they will either deny or defend. Some wanted him in office to ensure more conservative judges, and some because they simply can’t stand diversity. There’s absolutely no arguing with them; it’s a waste of time to engage with people who won’t take the time to understand the long-term effects of a narcissist at the helm.

I’m sure most of those people aren’t even reading this. But if they are—if you are—please understand I don’t directly contend conservative programs and missions. I don’t agree with them, but that is for the voter to decide. What I am disappointed in is the lack of ability of so many to do the homework necessary to learn firsthand that the man is a liar of the highest order, who couldn’t give a damn about anything but himself and his power and popularity, and it is going to crush us all—ALL of us—in the end.

He has to go.

Bulldozer Leadership (and herons)

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This morning a heron—the same one that seems to be there every day all day long—caught a fish in the icy pond at the bottom of the hill. My presence didn’t disturb her as she fished out small crabs and one six inch or so fish. She seriously did not appear to be stressed at all; not even when my phone rang. I left quietly so she could eat in peace.

It’s the morning of January 20, 2025, and here at Aerie along the Rappahannock River and Chesapeake Bay, it’s cold; temperatures won’t rise above 35 degrees Fahrenheit. It’s sunny, which somehow saves the day.

There’s a transfer of power taking place today, fyi.

Strength has two determinants: The ability to overpower if one so desires to do so, and the ability to refrain from such actions simply because one can. The first is the result of many factors including money, relationships, status, and position. The second is the result of character. It is a symptom of intelligence and humility. The vast majority of leaders in history shared the first, but only the truly “great” leaders embodied the latter.

True strength is the ability to overlook, to forgive, to accept without judgement, and to understand without pretense. Any other action is usually a characteristic of those who fear, those with low self-esteem. The need to overpower the weak and degrade the defenseless is the result of an absolute conviction no one but them can possibly lead, so they simply use what can best be described as “bulldozer leadership” by using the mechanisms at their disposal for their own sense of security, albeit a false one.

Strength is the ability to accept criticism and learn, the ability to recognize the truth despite its contradiction to one’s own belief system and accept that truth. A true leader delegates and discerns instead of dictating and determining.

The Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. seemed to embody those characteristics. He recognized that the true power was when the people stood up—or in some literal cases, sat down—for what they knew was right, to destroy what was unjust and degrading. He knew such an ideology could mean his death from those without the strength or character to accept that truth. But he also knew that true leadership perhaps above all else means sacrifice for the greater good.

I am spending today at the river, watching the heron feed and the geese fly. The ice on the tide has gathered for more than thirty feet out and that hasn’t happened here in several years. At the Bay the current is strong enough to keep from freezing, but Buffleheads dive and rise continuously, oblivious to the goings-on just 100 miles to the northwest.

I wish things were the way they used to be, when leaders acknowledged, even if only publicly, another’s victories and strengths, when there was hope for inclusion and safety in truth. I really do.

Dr. King said, “A genuine leader is not a searcher of consensus but a molder of consensus.” Where is that leader?

I’m headed back to the heron to watch her eat fish. It’s going to be cold for a while, but I have hope things will change. King also said, “We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.”

SAD

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Sometimes you can sense some sort of lethargy this time of year revealing itself in blatant ways, like not wanting to go to work, not filling out some forms or editing some article, not bothering to return important calls completely out of a sense of avoidance, as if you might be able to wait long enough and all of this will pass—this stuff that brings you down, and to be honest, you’re not really sure what that stuff is. The idleness of society maybe, the constant sense of impending doom reported in all forms of media about democracy, about pandemics, about weather, about climate, about the economy, about depression and isolation. You have no reason to take any of it personally, but some people can’t let it go, and it weighs heavy, so you aim for avoidance, which unfortunately ends up a heavier burden.  

Sometimes the withdrawal is subtle. You can sense yourself not trying as hard or caring as much, like eating whatever is around instead of thinking it through, not going for a walk because you don’t want to be bothered putting on a coat or dealing with any sensory change. You’re sitting; you’re comfortable, and you’re numb. It works. 

Numb is good.

In both situations you are absolutely aware of it. Going for a walk helps. Filing out the forms, returning calls, all help by providing a sense of accomplishment and forward motion, like checking things off the to-do list, it leaves you with the hint that if you keep going there’s something worthwhile on the other side.

There’s the rub. It seems you keep reaching the other side and there’s still nothing there to lift the spirits, not this season anyway—more hostility in the east, more pessimism in our government, more variants on deck ready to step to the plate after Omicron smacks a triple into right field, and fires in LA so out of control it’s hard to watch or imagine. So you try a little less at one task, and it spirals from there. You realize your handwashing time has dropped to about 12 seconds. It’s not depression; it’s, well, yeah, it’s depression, but not in the deeply caving sense; in the “whatever” sense.

The problem with this type of malaise is it can be debilitating to you without being scary to others if you are not suicidal. The truth is, the vast majority of people who deal with depression are not contemplating suicide and will never kill themselves, which is what most friends fear most, and when those friends learn that is not part of the equation, they feel better. But that can often make it worse since the objective is for you to feel better, not them. But that’s fair since you know what they don’t: that a different suicide exists, a slow erosion of sorts, which anonymously eats away at ambition and accomplishment, takes the edge off of energy and momentum. It’s the guy sitting at a bar nursing a beer, nowhere to go despite having a million things to do. It’s the one on the park bench watching people walk by but not noticing a single one of them; it’s the inability to concentrate, the disinterest in listening, the short responses to questions, the inability to make it through the most basic of activities. It’s writing endless emails about nothing to others in some attempt to reach out; but that just backfires. Rational thought has nothing to do with it. “Knowing” what to do is not relevant. Your mind is suspended, your thought process withdraws into some elementary state.  

On the one hand it’s situational—financial problems, relationship problems, blizzards. But it can also be chemical if you don’t have medical help. It’s addiction without restraint. It’s a combination of these, and it is unpredictable because the same thing that leaves you in bed staring at the ceiling feeling hopeless can drive you to your feet to tackle whatever it is that left you prostrate to begin with. It is a conundrum that plays handball in your brain.

The guy at the bar with the beer, the woman in the park, the man at the river watching the tide roll out, all know exactly what the problem is. But their brains are aflush with fog, their anxiety has disabled their decision-making capabilities, and their strongest assets and most celebrated talents that normally keep them going the rest of the year, are no longer applicable since they carry a sense that those traits are probably what brought them to this place to begin with. They sit and wonder what if. They sit.

“Maybe if I had just…”

“Perhaps I should have…”

“Fuck it.”

At some point it seems you stop fighting altogether and are either not afraid to hit bottom, or you hope to use that bottom to bounce back, not afraid to fail since it can’t be worse than this. It is extreme but that is part of the diagnosis—extremes, polar reactions—sometimes both in one day. Sometimes within one hour.

More often than not, the guy on the corner holding the cardboard sign didn’t “decide” to quit, didn’t give up, but “felt” a pressure that he no longer could handle or define, caught in some stream of disconnect and hopeless confusion. Sometimes the one who does, in fact, tragically go that last fatal step didn’t “decide” to do anything at all, and that is the point. Suicide is not a decision. It is one step beyond decision making. The vast majority of people who deal with depression have that in check, less so in the dead of winter, of course.

But that’s not you. Truly. And that is the problem; you really aren’t suicidal at all. And when suicide is not part of the equation, others feel that you must be “okay,” or “going through something right now.”

Yeah, winter, you’re going through a snow bank. This is the worst time of year for many people with depressive issues. Seasonal Affective Disorder is real and feels like all of the above. Nothing helps but time, but time to some people sounds like the slow drip of icicle melt. Others say you’ll get over it, it will pass, hang in there, talk to someone. Yes, all of the above, but right now–right this minute–you need help and you don’t know it.

Other people try to help so they talk about the weather or sports or anything at all with enthusiasm and a sense of caring, but it often makes it worse, only emphasizes that others get excited about the minutia while you can no longer find value in a sunrise.

And the disguises are nothing short of cunning. I’ve known people fighting depression who on the outside resonate as the very poster image of Carpe Diem. I’ve been friends with people who contemplated overdosing on Monday while making plans for Tuesday, who loved others more than the average soul but only wanted their puppy nearby at checkout time, and people who fought depressive ways by pushing adventure to the limit, and beyond. “What a lust for life!” people exclaimed. They had no idea.

It isn’t exactly depression, by the way, though it is easier to simply call it that because it certainly wears the same eyeshadow as depression. It is indifference; it is a vague inability to muster the energy to lift your spirits enough to give a damn about anything. It’s not like you woke up depressed so you decided to stay on the couch all day; you simply don’t care that you’re on the couch to begin with. Complete apathy. You’re not down about anything; you answer “fine” because you really are fine; fine’s a fine word; vague and indifferent. It has the definitive weight of a horse shoe and the value of fog. “I’m fine, really,” should never be left alone with a person who fights depression.

Ironically, for most of these afflicted people, life is amazing, every half-beat is a moment of “miracles and wonder” which is why you cannot comprehend the misuse of time. The abuse of time in so short a life, you think, is as suicidal as the abuse of substances, and that can be depressing as well.

It is the time of year when you wake at three am knowing nothing is going to work, and you’re going to lose your house and your sense of security and no answer makes sense, no way forward seems rational. Equally, the dawn can come with new ideas and hope, and if you push those moments far enough into the morning, you just might be able to make a day of it. But January has 285 days. And February is several months long. March? Well you well know that March is merely a tease. April comes and breathing is easier. May, and nothing stands in your way. But in January it is safe to say yet difficult for others to understand that May hasn’t even been invented yet. It doesn’t exist and neither will you by then.

On the outside you seem to be fine. On the inside you’re grasping the thin rope of enthusiasm with clenched fists, pretending all will be well, but your insides—much against your will—are shredding at the thought of what to do next.

You “hang in there.” You “get through it.” You suffer the trite suggestions of others who simply can’t understand what the big deal is. That’s okay though, you think. Really. There are no solutions, per se. Just more questions. And “hang in there” is at the very least an acknowledgement you really aren’t trying to dismiss your very existence; it just happens sometimes. Depressed people do not feign depression; they feign contentment.

This afternoon I went to the river where a bitter breeze is pushing down from the west. There’ll be ice tonight somewhere, and snow, but I sat reminding myself I have been there, touched that ring of undefinable despair, and I’ve moved through it, sometimes with difficulty, often with ease, always with the knowledge that I’ve had one freaking incredible life so far, and time enough left, I hope, to continue my pilgrimage well into the next mood swing. But there are moments, collisions with frustration at the gap between the way things are and the way things should be, that catch some people off guard. “You’ve been like this before,” a dear friend told me not long ago when things were less than fine. “And you’ll be like this again.” And all you can think is, “Yes I will, like right now.” But what she meant was this is you, this is part of your DNA, this is as much you as your skin. What she meant was there is no “fighting” the tigers that come at night. Better to sit and dine with them, and wait. Just wait.

And Eventually you remember that the seasons, like everything else, change. And love is holding the other end of that thin line you’re grasping.

I’ve been released
And I’ve been regained
And I’ve been this way before
And I’m sure to be this way again
Once more time again

–N. Diamond

First the COVID-19 pandemic, now winter….is seasonal depression coming my way? — Dear Pandemic

Life in the Margins (Part two of two)

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When I was in my late teens my father and I played golf one afternoon at his club in Virginia Beach. About the third hole a man caught up to us and played along. He was good; a driver, short chip, one putt player. I was not. I had the same clubs but more often than not sliced it to the right or bounced it into a water hazard. I didn’t have a temper, but it wasn’t unusual for me to put my club back in my bag with some force, as if to say, “Don’t even think about coming back out until you know how to hit the ball straight!”

I did this after I butchered an easy fifty-yard chip shot by clipping it straight to the right into a lake. I cursed, of course. The golfer was standing nearby waiting to hit his second shot to my fourth.

“Can I give you some advice?” he asked. I sighed. First of all, no, no you cannot, because I’m nineteen and I don’t take advice, and because I don’t even know you. But noting my dad just a few yards away I opted for sportsmanship.

“Sure,” I sighed.

He paused. “You’re not good enough to get mad.”

I stared at him.

He continued: “Really, how often do you play? Do you take lessons? Do you have the best clubs? If you played all the time and took lessons, well then you could be upset at not improving. Otherwise you’re just wasting good energy.”

Ever since then, I have not only relaxed and enjoyed the game, I play better. After a while I applied this to most aspects of life, not in a way to find an excuse to not try, but to relieve the stress that comes from going through life doing things everyone else seems to simply be better at than me. It also motivated me to get into the game a bit in those areas I do have some game.

Awkward Transition Section:

I gave an assignment not long after September 11th, 2001, when my students would have been in their teens during the attack. I wanted them to reflect on what will remain one of the most significant days in our lives. How, I wondered, do they remember that day? I thought it was a good assignment—a specific event but a vague enough request for them to wander where they wished.

One student wrote of her aunt who never made it out of the South Tower. Another wrote about her sense of horror and disbelief, which, she wrote, she could never correctly capture on paper. Several actually commented they didn’t think it affected their lives at all while others spit out what they kind of paid attention to with one ear from local television reports—about heightened security, conspiracy factors, the indescribable loss of life that spontaneously erupted on TV that morning. But one student’s piece caught my attention. He wrote, in part:

“In a way, September 11 demonstrated, more than any one phrase can contain, the strength of our Constitution. The day became the beginning of a new era of the democratic process, and the definition of how we will defend our liberty, maintain our principles and remember our purpose—to stand as an example of humanity’s potential. It was Memorial Day. It was Victory Day.“

I read this with amazement. I asked for the rough draft and received exactly what I knew I would: A similar, hand written version with some words written differently and others crossed out. Excellent.

“You plagiarized this,” I said, which, understand, is rare for teachers to say. We receive copied material all the time, but nearly never have enough proof to say, directly, “You didn’t write this.” In a world of AI generated essays, it gets even tougher, but I ask them to ask themselves if they’re good enough to plagiarize correctly. I remind them in order to pull off an AI paper or plagiarized work they need to have a deep understanding of my requirements for the essay, the style I’m looking for, the specific language, the relevant references, and to be frank, I let them know, most of them aren’t good enough writers to plagiarize that well.

But this kid nailed it. “I didn’t plagiarize that!”

I smiled. “Yeah, you did.” My small laugh, I think, pissed him off. He continued to challenge me. Normally, plagiarized papers frustrate faculty members when they know an assignment was plagiarized—either from another student or from one of the many web sites offering papers for sale, or more recently for various AI sites— but can’t prove it. So when proof does come along, while it’s disappointing to have such lazy ass students,  it’s not just slightly satisfying to stop them in their tracks.

“Yes, you did. Tell me why you shouldn’t fail.”

“Because I didn’t plagiarize it.”

“Okay, I’ll tell you what. I want you to bring me a copy of the original. If you do, I’ll let you redo the assignment without penalty.” I figured the embarrassment would be sufficient.

Once a student turned in a paragraph she plagiarized from our own text. Another time a student turned in a paper right out of the psychology textbook assuming I wouldn’t recognize that his in-class writing had the ability of a seventh grader and the essay he turned in was written by Freud.

I don’t think they’re simply overworked. They’re bored. What they’re doing is staring at me and thinking of everything else. In the front row is the guy with his fingers in his mouth, gnawing on his fingernails, pulling them out wet every once in a while to observe his work and then shift his focus to a different cuticle. In the back row some dude’s pretending to write notes while he’s reading his text messages on his cell phone.

Certainly, some things really are boring, and sometimes it’s difficult to find the relevance. I know; I was a student.

Too many aren’t listening. And I totally understand. There’s too much noise. Streaming services, reels, TikTok, internet scrolls, deadlines, term papers, credit card bills, car repairs, moving in, moving out, daycare, spouse abuse, deployment, speeding tickets. The pace of life is at Mach 7, and we’re teaching from a stage coach—no wonder they’re bored. They haven’t yet realized that life is infinitely more interesting from the stage coach; that life exists in the margins as well as the headlines, and we should not simply focus on the large, obvious lessons we underline but the small details where we learn what we are and are not good enough at to get upset to begin with.

We’re too busy for that. Before they’re out the classroom door, students are calling each other, talking and walking from building to cars, elbows bent, phone tucked tight to their ears. We’re completely plugged in. There’s no time to think. Don’t stop, don’t listen, and don’t figure it out. Just keep yourself plugged in to create the illusion that something’s getting done.

And we keep missing the good stuff because we don’t have time. A college where I used to teach had a reading by one of America’s leading poets, Reetika Vazirani. Maybe a dozen people showed up. There was enough room for her cute two-year-old to run around the auditorium, climb across chairs and make everyone laugh. Reetika’s poetry was magic. Students who did show up sat looking at their laps while Reetika read:  

Little by little, I’ll figure it out

I’ll say to them, Relax, we’ll live to be a hundred

I’ll sort things out.

And her child danced down steps toward the small crowd. They missed that for the noise. Noise, that unlike the rest of our lives, won’t ever fade but instead will grow in intensity until it blends to the point of saturation, and becomes inaudible, an undercurrent of indiscernible distraction.

I can’t help but sympathize with students. They see the careers of their parents or friends, and they know at best the future holds the slow erosion of enthusiasm.

Early before class one day, I waited for my student with the plagiarized 9/11 paper to show up. Some papers are so moronic I pray they were plagiarized just so I don’t have to believe one of my students wrote that crap. I read a paper once which began, “Shakespeare wrote Hamlet almost a decade ago.”  Another paper I received once had the same page printed three times. When I pointed out the mistake, he said he couldn’t think of anything else to write but knew the paper had to be 800 words, so he just copied it a few times.

When the student with the plagiarized paper returned, I was ready. “Ah, did you find it?” I asked when he came in and tried to sit down without looking at me.

“No,” he said, as I knew he would. Pride sucks.

“It’s okay. I brought a copy. Shall I read it to you?”

“No.”

“Great! Here goes:”

I believe our best education has nothing at all to do with the classroom or the assignments or the degree. It’s between the lines and off to the side of the narrative where we discover the best of what we need. This isn’t original; in fact, it’s a thought and practice older than formal education.  I don’t remember much from grammar school, which they called it then because they still taught grammar there. But I do remember my teacher taking us all out one April afternoon to lie in the grass on our backs and stare at the sky while she told us about the tragedy aboard Apollo 13 going on right then in space above us. All the discussions about what went wrong and how they might not make it back were irrelevant until we rested in the grass and stared at the sky.

The thing is, we’re all the same. Conditioning has them believing that life is supposed to be some Reality Television show. There’s no plot, no writers, no purpose.  Suicide is the second leading cause of death among college students behind accidents. In fact the rate is higher among college students than it is for the same age group who aren’t enrolled in college—you know why? Because life is infinitely more interesting than most of the crap we’re fed in school. No one cares about most of the material we spend so much time preparing.  In the real world, however, we tend to seek out challenges we know we are up to, where in college students face new levels of expectations, and when they’re not up to the task they complain instead of asking themselves if they’re good enough to be there to begin with, if they’re willing to get better. They’re trying to make sense of it all—or want someone to help them, and when they can’t they rely upon what others have done and plagiarize that.  No wonder they’re bored. Hell, I’m bored.

Sometimes I try and picture my students as toddlers and help them not in a childish way but in a way which I hoped faculty had helped my son, as if he were their own. Was he paying attention when teachers taught?

Was I?

Recently I remembered Reetika’s son, who ran through the vacant auditorium while his mother read poetry. Shortly after that reading, just before taking her own life, Reetika—riddled with psychological challenges—killed her son. I’m tuning that one out. There’s no lesson there. Sometimes I picture my son at twenty, wondering which of my students he would have been like and how would I have answered his questions, approached his plagiarized paper.

I stared at the young man that plagiarized the 9/11 story and asked if he were ready. He turned his head to one side, trying not to make eye contact. “Hey, it’s from the local paper! Well, let’s see:

“There are still no words for September 11’ by…”  I stared at him: “Oh my god, Dude, should I go on?” He laughed a little at my sarcasm because he knew what came next and because, really, it’s so laughable.

“There are still no words for September 11’ by…” I stopped and looked at him. “You’ve got to be kidding,” I said.

He spoke quietly: “I didn’t know you wrote it.”

“Where’d you get this?” I asked. A friend of his gave it to him from his developmental English class but had taken my name off his copy.

“I was set up,” he said.

“You think? Do it over. Here. Now. You’ve got the whole class.”

I opened the door and the class came in. I talked about something, I forget what since I wasn’t really listening, and after class everyone left and he gave me his paper. He wrote:

September 11th scared the hell out of me. I was only fifteen and our country was being attacked. I remember rumors that a bomb had been planted at the State Department and I really thought it was just starting, that we were at war right here in America. My brother was nineteen at the time and in the Army in North Carolina, and I couldn’t sleep. Our teacher talked to us about it during the following period at school, but I wasn’t listening. I was thinking of my brother and about war. I was thinking about how a few hours earlier my friends and I were talking about how some guy bought us beer that weekend and we hung out in Croatan, and suddenly none of us was talking at all, and no one wanted to. We just stood around and said, “Damn,” and we were scared.

He found his voice. “I’m disappointed,” I said. “This is way better writing than the one I wrote that you tried to plagiarize.”

“See you Thursday.”

Most students don’t find their own voice or would even hear it over all the noise. When things finally do settle down and it gets quiet and the cell phones are turned off, most of us wouldn’t know our own voice. Maybe we’re scared. I know I am. Maybe we don’t want to know what we sound like, preferring instead to fall into some mainstream composite of expectation and predictability. I tried to tell my son to figure things out for himself. Don’t rely upon being taught, but instead, learn. They’re not the same thing. I hope he listened.

And I’m certain he hoped I listened as well. I tried to pay attention, but it was hard back then with the constant noise of students and papers and classes and all the other voices in my head. So sometimes, too often I suppose, it was difficult to always pay attention and listen to everything. And that scares me.

Turns out it is the small stuff that mattered. It’s the details I should have paid attention to. In class I wonder if I have any right to get angry when they’re cheating with AI; I mean, maybe if I were a better professor they wouldn’t do it. But it’s more than that: In the hallways, in conversations, in all lessons I want to drill into them that the larger objective is not difficult to digest; it is the details that we need to spend more time focusing on. It’s the same for college students as it was for toddlers. You see, I had this fear when my son was little that I would get mad at him one day and he would turn to me and say, “Dad, you’re not a good enough father to get mad. Maybe if you’d practiced a little more.”